When I got only a little ways into the film I saw Alex's story and that made me angry and I felt all the stuff that happened to me come back and seeing all that he went through, I felt even more. There's no question that this is a problem. Now I was mostly verbally abused in High School, but that's bad, no matter how you look at it. The simple answer to many people is to ignore it and move on. But how does it feel to have to hang out with the "loser crowd?" How does it feel to hang with others that are being bullied just the same over and over. Sure getting together helps and I felt for them just as much, but that group sense isn't enough. The bullying had to stop. And also unlike Alex I lashed out and was referred to as "psycho," Because of it. Alex just pretended to laugh and enjoy it, just because he wanted friends. And it wasn't just verbal. it was physical for him. Stabbed with pencils, punched, and choked. The bullying on him escalated enough for the film makers to show his family and finally have them know and get into the picture.
It feels sickening to watch much of this go on. So one problem that the school goes through, because of this bullying is that they could be seen as bad for letting this go on, of course in this movie, it was for them to show the world and get some help with this problem. The school took the right step. Here's some other things that can happen. In the movie there was a father talking about his son that was only 11 when he committed suicide. A black athletic girl was bullied so much that she took her mother's gun onto the bus. No lives were taken and no shots were made, but she held the students hostage. Pointed the gun at many of the students that picked on her. She threatened and yet at many of them. "You made me do this," is what she says. One thing that doesn't really come into play in this movie are lawsuits. I've heard school staff being sued for their irresponsibility in taking care of these problems. Suicides, bullies beating, school shootings, and lawsuits. I'm sure no school wants these, but when a parent puts their kids in the care of others, they expect them to take care of them. The schools, by not doing anything, invite these things into their buildings. Then they sometimes punish. Hypocrisy is what I call this.
I was on GetGlue.com and made the comment on my situation. I'm on medications such as Xanax. I have been out of school. I learned to forgive, but forgiveness doesn't just start at one day and you move on. Forgiveness is an everyday thing. The feelings and thoughts come back all the time. I may even have to forgive it all over again. Forgiveness is an everyday thing. You don't just do it one time and it's over.
Now I don't have kids of my own, so you'd think that It's over for me, but I relive it. I don't do this on purpose. I wish I had that kind of control. Maybe someday I will have a son or daughter. I don't want this to happen to them and if it did, you better believe all hell will break loose.
I would love the opportunity to share my experiences. I would be open to anything to help kids get through this today. Though I do have some crowd fear and such and being single. These things would make it hard to get into helping kids. But I feel so angry or empathetic that I wish I could do something.
From the movie, Alex is in a new school. He has friends. He gets along well. He even seems more outgoing. The change in him was great. What do you think made the difference in his mood and has behavior? The atmosphere and the fact that he's not being bullied and has friends. For a brighter future, we must end the bully epidemic.
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